7 ways to reduce the risk of an affair(for you and for him)
Friday, December 7, 2007 // 7:55 PM
1)Make sure you both agree on what being monagamous means.sit down together and spell it out.does kissing someone else constitute being unfaithful?
2)make it very plain,very early on in the relationship,that you would leave you partner if they cheated, no matter what the circumstances.if they're 100% certain you won't tolerate infidelity,they'll be much less likely to take the risk.
3)have an "affair" with each other.you know what i mean right?suprises,and simple messages in the middle of the day like "i'm thinkin of you".sweet not overdone.the couple who play together,stay together.
4)don't give up to impulses.if you're tempted,picture your partner's face if they see you sharing parts of yourself you'd promise to reserve for them.move beyond the attraction of giving in to the appeal of a new body and think about the threat of aids,the lies,drama,heartbreak,deciding who gets what,throwing all that history away and so on...
5)if your partner says that they are unhappy,take it seriously.watch for non-verbal signs that your partner's distancing themselves but don't ignore the obvious either.do something about it.it doesn't mean the problem's gone away if they stop complaining-they've given up.
6)do a once-a-month check on your partner.ask them,"are you happy?""is there anything you'd like me to do more or less?sexually?emotionally?"
7)concentrate on what's good about being together as well as solving whats bad.isolate the problems areas and work on solving them,but don't forget to acknowledge the areas you both are doing well in too.
really hope these tips would help save your relationships and your heartbreaks,also to prepare those who are getting into a realtionship.being cheated on is never a good feeling.so think before you do sucha thing.it seriously ain't worth it.
love,
asha
(and she wished there was a mr right.but the world's just a puppet show,and mr right changes overnight to an evil villian and manages to get away- as usual.)
