Asha

ASHA'S LOVE PROFILE2:DEALING WITH COUPLE ENVY! (JUST ATTACHED)

Wednesday, August 29, 2007 // 5:02 PM

YOU'RE HAPPY WITH YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP.YOU EXPECT YOU FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO BE HAPPY FOR YOU.BUT WHAT IF THE SITUATION TURNS UGLY?HERE ARE SOME OF THE COMMON PROBLEMS THAT YOU AND I MIGHT HAVE COME ACROSS.

PROBLEM 1:When the girlfriends starts complaining that you're not spending time with them anymore,now that you have a boyfriend.

SOLUTION:This is a test for your friends.if they have your interests at heart,they'll knoe you need to spend time with your ne beau to build up the relationship before inviting them to your joint-lives.explain the situation to them so there are no misunderstandings.nobody likes to be thrown aside for a new distraction.

PROBLEM 2:Accused of being too affectionate in public.

SOLUTION:Remember when you were single and wanting to shout out to couples who were publily"pawing" at each other to go get a room?well,guess what?
you've become that irritating couple.yes,all of us have the right to be affectionate,lovingly and freely..but not to the expense of your friends feeling uncomfortable and akward.if your friends keep hinting or being sarcastic,cut that P.D.A(PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION)

PROBLEM 3:Best friend suffered a traumatic breakup while you just met what possibly could be mr right!

SOLUTION:On one hand,be sensitive to her situation,on the other, you can't hide your happiness to one and all.There is no easy way to handle this.She is envious and you can't control how she feels.Never use an accusatory tone,and emphasise that you want her to be happy for you and that you still need her support as a friend.

PROBLEM 4:Mum and dad play mr and mrs know it all

SOLUTION:First impressions count,so create a favourable one.
i'd rather you invite him for dinner rather than they bump into him as he is emerging from your room.of course,they want you to hear their views.hear them out,even if he is your ultimate choice.

PROBLEM 5:Platonic relationship's stepping in the way making present boyfriend insecure.

SOLUTION:Men are naturally pretty territorial and they may feel insecure at the presence of the other.its a guy thing so you just have to ride it out.let both parties know that you still care.if situations don't improve,keep outings seperate when it comes to them.

PROBLEM 6:Friend invites me out,but not my boyfriend.she gets angry when i suggest he come along.

SOLUTION:She's either jealous,or for some reason,dores not get along with your boyfriend.investigate.
emphasise that both your friendship and relationship is equally important.if she is a true friend,she would understand and support you.if she feels uncomfortable,maybe you could plan something to let them get to know each other better.

sooo,spread some love and i hope tat u girls can tackle tis common problems all of us face..well atleast,once in our lifetime.

love,
asha
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